Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Letting it all out...

Hi ya'll! I'm back.

This year, I promised myself I was going to work on being a little more honest. Not that i'm a liar. I just have felt the need to grow up a little and stop being so much of a people pleaser and speak my mind a little more. This also includes being a little more open. So, here it goes.

I have a problem. A BIG problem. I need some help from you, my friends and family. This is an issue I have been working on for a few years and still don't have many answers.

When I was a toddler, I had a reoccurring dream. It lasted about 2 years and as frequent as about 3-5 times a week. I remember it well. I was kidnapped, sitting in a red booth, waiting for my family to come be with me. In walks this man, sits down in the booth and the next thing I know, he has me tied up and stuffing me in his car. This is the point at which I would wake up crying and scared. As a little girl, I couldn't do anything by myself without someone in the room with me. Obviously, I have grown out of that... mostly. I still have moments, for instance, I don't really like to go to bed alone.

Night-time, as in 'the middle' of the night doesn't set well with me. We don't get along. Now, having said that, we all know that with kids, night time can be the most trying time of the day. Since Hailey wakes up often at night now, every time I hear her door open, I get knots in my stomach and I feel like i'm going to throw up, that's how much anxiety creeps into my little brain.

Along with this, I have anxiety about leaving my kids... especially at night. Nate thinks it all has something to do with my dream as a child and just having so much anxiety wrapped up in my little world. So, about leaving my kids. I would LOVE to go on more dates with Nate. I can't. I have way too much anxiety about leaving my kids at bedtime. I have a really hard time letting anyone put them to bed besides me. Again, something to do with the whole 'protective night-time' thing. Because of this, I have only been away from them maybe twice at bed-time and once overnight
(which almost killed me, by the way). 3 YEARS people.

I'm at a point where I HATE to travel. Let me re-phrase this. I WANT to travel, but I have WAY too much anxiety about it and being out of my comfort zone and away from my house and their beds is terrifying!!!!!!! They sleep in seperate rooms and hotels just don't cut it. Other people's houses make me nervous with my kids because of this issue and I freak out even thinking about night time wake ups at someone elses house. Ugh.

I need to fix this. And as much as I've worked on it, I can't seem to curve the anxiety and just let things be.

This is where you come in. I need ideas. Anyone out there who struggles with the same level of craziness? Psycological Mess? What works for you?

Thursday, January 7, 2010

My Dancing Monkey

Two posts in one week! I can't even handle it.

Today was Hailey's first day at dance class. Such a cute class. She goes once a week for an hour and it's a combo class including Tap, Ballet, Tumbling and Jazz. She had NO idea what was going on, but she LOVED it. She has been so excited all week since we got her tap and ballet shoes and today was the big day.


She had so much fun and surprisingly did quite well for it being her first time. She still hasn't stopped talking about it and can't wait for next week.

the videos are a little fuzzy. I was trying to figure out the video on my new spiffy camera. Obviously I have a lot to learn! :-) Enjoy.





Sunday, January 3, 2010

BUSY Sunday

I thought Sundays were suppose to be a day of rest. No? Nate and I were having this very conversation on the way to family dinner tonight. It seems that it's suppose to be a day to relax, ponder, pray, have some quiet time, etc. I'm not sure of a Sunday where that's happened in a LONG time. Between Nate's callings and mine, it seems Sundays are quite busy for us. Well, today was no different. In fact, today was intense.

First, Hailey graduated Nursery!
I'm still not sure how I feel about it. I had really mixed emotions today. I can't believe she has grown up so fast. K, I can't keep writing about her growing up.. I can already feel the tears swell. So, instead i'll tell you how cool her graduation was. At 1:50 this afternoon, we were to meet upstairs by the Primary room where they had the graduation set up. The cutest thing ever. They even were presented with little graduation hats and certificates. Followed by refreshments (apples and oranges). So cute. (please excuse the awful pictures.cell phone.)



In between all this, we had to figure out what to do with Addy because she goes down RELIGIOUSLY around 12-12:30 every day for a nap. It's BAD news when this doesn't happen. Well, lucky for us (insert sarcasm here) our ward STARTS at 11:30. BAD IDEA.
So, that was interesting.

This brings us to the conversation in the car on the way to family dinner (great dinner, by the way). We're eating when all of a sudden, Addy starts crying. The 'i'm trying to be strong, but this really hurts' cry. It was so sad. She hands her hand to Nate and he gasps saying she needs stitches. So, we dropped everything and left dinner immediately to head to the insta-care nearby. Indeed, she needed stitches. 6 to be exact, on her tiny little hand inbetween two fingers. It was pretty sick. Even Nate has had an upset stomach all night from seeing the tendons and muscle down in her little finger. Don't tell him I said this (thank goodness he never reads my blog) but when he and Addy came out of the room at the insta-care, he was crying. She wasn't! HA! She was a little trooper. Numbing gell and 4 shots later, the stitches went in and in a week or so, she has to go back to have them removed. Till then, no baths and we have to keep her hand wrapped up. Ugh. Those of you with busy little 18 month olds who love baths know this will not be an easy week. I'm sure we'll survive.. we have at this point with at least 5 visits to the hospital this year!!! Or last year, I guess. Well, we're not off to a very good start in 2010. Hopefully it only gets better from here.


At this point, i'm really frustrated. I'll be honest. Afterall, this IS my blog and somewhat a journal.. i'm allowed to be honest.

I didn't sign up for all this hospital stuff when I became a mother. I feel like since day one of finding out I was pregnant, I have ended up in the hospital with a fetus or an infant or toddler WAY too many times. Frankly, i'm tired. I'm sick of dealing with this rollercoaster of emotions that send me into panic and anxiety for my little ones. I'm so done. Done with those painful cries that I can't bear to hear anymore. Done with running off to the ER or insta-care every few months. Done.

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Never Again...

Today was the MUCH dreaded visit to the hospital for Little H. Hailey has been getting UTI's and other weird stuff throughout the course of the last 8 months or so. Well, after many visit's to the doctor, it was time to get some REAL tests done at the hospital to make sure her kidneys were functioning properly. Sound familiar? Yep! We took Addy in for the same proceedure when she was about 7 months old or so. Let me just say, taking a 7 month old in compared to a 3 year old... neither fun by any means, but so much easier when they are younger.

So, let me start from the beginning. Hailey got sick Monday night due to something she ate, we think. Tuesday, she didn't really feel like eating much. Fastforward Wednesday morning:
STARVING 3 year old.

The little monkey was so hungry and I felt like the worst mom in the world telling her she couldn't eat or drink anything till after her visit to the doctor. Her huge brown watering eyes looking at me saying "i'm starving! just one piece of cereal, please..." was enough to completely break my heart.

11:00 rolled around and we get to the hospital. The first thing they did was an ultrasound to check her kidneys and bladder. The tech was cool..showed her how cool her fingers looked on an ultrasound screen and she liked that. THEN came the part where she had to take her shirt off for the rest of it. NOT GOOD. She KNEW it was not all fun and games anymore and things were about to get serious. Although I had to hold her the entire time with her clinging for dear life, the worst was yet to come.

In comes the pediatric sedation team. The nice thing, is they come from Primary Childrens Hospital and are very familiar with wee ones. They brought her a plethora of presents. A hospital doll that she could draw a face on, a bag of goodies including but not limited to a bouncy ball, tiara, noise makers, etc. They also had a cute little tutu for her. They were pretty good about getting her interested in the toys and helping the 'Hospital Doll' get her medicine too. The part that was the worst was the IV.

She was awake and in it went.. after a couple tries of course. So here we had a screaming toddler, an almost ballistic mother, a sad daddy and 3 nurses holding her still. All combined made for a VERY intense few minutes. Let me just say, I hope I NEVER have to hear that kind of a cry come from my baby girl ever again. Through the proceedure, she cried the entire time. Even though she was sedated, she had tears running down her face. They said that was normal because the meds make them weepy.. but oh man. So sad. When the proceedure was over, which we were able to stay with her the entire time, they brought her a grape popcicle which she LOVED, especially because they gave her two! And after being a little dizzy all afternoon, she has recovered. Even though the medicine they gave her is suppose to take away the memory of it all for traumatic reasons, I found myself wishing they had some of that for me too. I never want to have to experience that again. I'm just glad its over.





by the way, they found nothing wrong with her. Of course. So... back to the natural way of doing things. Eating better and logging everything she eats. I'm pretty sure it's a food allergy. Hopefully we can pinpoint it soon.

Monday, December 21, 2009

A Whole Lotta Stuff

I know, I know. It's been a long time since I posted something. Busy is not a strong enough word to describe why I haven't. But as I sit here late in the evening with my incredibly hot husband, I can't help but feel like I'd rather do something other than watch a show about hoarders. He's intrigued.

So, here I am. I have a season of CRAZINESS to throw at you. Are you ready? Hold on, cause here we go.

#1. NEW CALLING!
Well, sort of. Our ward got dissolved and therefore, we all lost our callings. Fast forward a couple weeks and I got called into the same position I was in... for the last 3 years! I was excited. I love being in Young Womens.

#2. NEW MOON!
Enough said.


#3. CARRIAGE RIDE!
SO fun. Hailey opted to be a little on the 'STINKER' side this night, but still had so much fun. Addy, on the other hand had a perma-grin from ear to ear that stayed all the way till we got home. Grandpa Johnson came with us and kindly took pictures for us! Thanks Grandpa!






#4. SHOPPING!
Double YAY! I love holiday shopping. K, i'll be honest, I love any kind of shopping, but the fact that it's for a holiday, makes it seem more OK. And shopping for kids is SO MUCH FUN. I can't handle it. By the way, KOHL'S, you're my new best friend. Thanks for coming into my life.

#5. SLEEPLESS NIGHTS...
BOOOOOOOO! Poor little Hailey continues to wake up with uncomfortable issues. One day i'll get sleep. Till then, bring on the SUGAR to keep me awake. Any of you who might want to contribute to helping me stay awake during the day, I like chocolate.

#6. GINGERBREAD HOUSES!
Whomever came up with gingerbread kits, you deserve an award. Thanks to my mom who gave us a serious Advent calendar on steroids, making gingerbread houses one night was the activity for that particular day and the girls loved it. At one point, Nate put his hand in front of Addy's mouth and out came an enormous amount of candy. It all ended up in his hand and it was pretty much disgusting.



#7. CHRISTMAS DECORATIONS!
Yay for Christmas lights. It's the first thing I turn on in the morning and the last thing I turn off at night. They are my favorite. We even hung up a strand of lights on our house this year! Double YAY!

#8. REINDEER!
We took the girls to Thanksgiving Point the other night and they got to pet and feed real reindeer. It was pretty cool, i'm not gonna lie.




#9. WRAPPING PRESENTS!!
I LOVE wrapping presents. Some people hate it, but it is pure joy for me to wrap fun stuff i've picked out for people and put it under the tree. LOVE it.

#10. ORGANIZING. (this doesn't get an exclamation point)
There has been a lot of organizing going on in this house this month. I'm so tired of clutter and not being able to find things when I need them. I have about 5 different craft boxes strung throughout my house, stacks of bills and papers in the office, etc. It's time to put things in their places. I have to say, it feels GREAT!

#11. SANTA!
We took the girls to go see Santa at University Mall. OH MY! They LOVED it. Hailey was so excited and kept wanting to go back and see him again after our turn was up.


#12. SNOW
Their new favorite thing to do. Dress up in all their snow gear and head outside. It was especially fun when Archie came to play in the snow with them. They got lots of doggy kisses.




That about sums it up. There have been little projects in between all that, but for the most part, it's just been a month full of Christmas and that's the way I like it.

Oh, and one more thing.

Here's my 2009 Christmas wish-list. (which is pretty much a 'yeah right' list)
-Canon 50D (haha! yeah right! We're not richy-rich)
-Vitamix (yeah, right!)
-New Sewing Machine (uh-huh! yeah, right)
-New Victoria's Secret Bra (maybe)
-Shopping Spree (YEAH RIGHT!)
-Photography equipment (keep dreamin')
-New Clothes (we'll see)
-Cricut (thanks mom)
-new shoes (do-able)

and the list goes on. If I kept listing things, this post would never end. I know, i'm suppose to say things like world peace and health (don't get me wrong, those are a HIGH priority in my prayers, but can't I be materialistic just for a minute? Hey, a girl can dream, right?! Yes she can. And I do!

Most of all, i'm just excited for Christmas and to see the looks on my girls faces when they wake up Christmas morning. Can't wait!

Wow, that was a long post. I hope you all have a great Christmas. And I want to know what's on YOUR lists!

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Snow Princess


Hailey and I went outside to play in the snow today for the second day in a row. HOLY COW it was cold. Much colder than it was yesterday.

For me, snow has a few pro's and MANY con's.

Pro's:
I get to take really cute pictures of my kids all bundled up.(like this one)

The first snow fall of the year is always so pretty and magical.
Christmas lights and snow look so fun together.
Gives me a sense of holiday spirit.
Sledding.

Con's:WAY too many to even begin listing.. and this is suppose to be happy reading, so I won't even go there. You'd think coming from living in Montana, I'd be GREATFUL for the amount of snow we get in Utah, but it's still 'snow' to me.

Aside from snow, and cute pictures of my Little H, I've been doing a lot of thinking lately. Mostly about friends and how fortunate I am to have such good friends. I got an email from a friend of mine yesterday that said our friendship was non-judgemental or grudging. (it was worded differently, of course) We've always been able to understand eachothers situations and circumstances and just know when we needed one another and I really appreciate that. (insert 'awe' here)

Since it's been on my mind a lot, I felt the need to let all my friends out there know that I am greatful. Greatful to have someone to love and be loved in return.

I love Anne of Green Gables and I love that she uses the phrase "kindred spirits". Sounds cheesy, but I am grateful for the 'kindred spirits' in my life.

so here's to you, my friends, I really do cherish you (sounds like a 98degrees song.. or maybe it actually is).

And good luck to all of you this winter and here's hoping you don't freeze your tail off too much.

Sunday, December 6, 2009

Prayers, Please.

Tomorrow morning, 7am to be exact, Little H has to be at the dentist to have some work done which they have to put her out for. Yes, you heard me, she has to have an IV and be put under serious meds while they work on her mouth for about an hour.

I am NOT looking forward to it and I'm so nervous about it. I'm sure she'll be fine, but with instructions of "you'll have to hold her while she goes limp in your arms" doesn't sit well with me, really.

So, yes, bright and early in the morning we'll be heading out on a not-so-fun journey. Maybe Nate and I need your prayers more than she does but either way, much appreciated.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Fun Bags...

I've been wanting to try this for a while now and have just never gotten around to it. Well, the other day, I decided to go for it. I made this cute bag and it took mmm... half an hour. It was a lot of fun. I'll be making more.. that's for sure.

They are GREAT for scripture bags.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

ahhh.. the Dentist.

I hate going to the dentist.. but i'm not sure of anyone who loves it.

Today was Hailey's first trip to the dentist. Yikes! Man, was I nervous. We took her to a pediatric dentist who was great. We were pleasantly surprised at how well she did. The headphones and the TV mounted on the ceiling DID help distract her, but she was amazing. She did just what they asked and thought the vacuum was pretty cool.



At one point, I look over at Nate and he is just laughing at the simple fact that she's doing so well when we both thought FOR SURE she would NOT let any of this happen.

I can't believe my little monkey is big enough to go to the dentist.

Monday, November 9, 2009

Happy Birthday Monkey!!

This past Saturday was Hailey's 3rd birthday. You heard me, 3rd! Is anyone else weirded out by this? I can't believe she's 3! Time Flies!


This year, Hailey wanted a Dinosaur Party. So, that's what she got. I know, I know...she's a girl and is in love with Dinosaurs. It's a little strange that she loves dinosaurs and trains and tractors, but for those of you who might be a little worried, she is definitely a princess at heart.



We had a great day spoiling her and preparing for her party which turned out to be so much fun. Her reaction to her cake was the best part of the day and it made all the hard work of making it SO WORTH IT! My parents were here which was a fun treat for her and my mom pretty much took over the kitchen for me so that I could enjoy my little girls exciting day. It was fabulous.




As I look back on this past year, I can't help but see how much joy she has brought to me and my life. Tonight, for example: Addy was walking around aimlessly in the livingroom when she found herself wandering toward Hailey. Hailey said "come here Addy" with her arms outstretched. The two of them stood there hugging for at least 3 minutes. Hugging, then looking at eachother and letting out a little giggle, then hugging more. Hailey helps me cook, helps me with Addy, helps me clean, makes me laugh, makes me cry, keeps my spirits up and so much more. Here's to another great year with my little monkey, Miss H.

And here's to lookin' at this next year to come: Bring it on! I can't wait!

Love you Baby Girl!